When the angels had gone away from them into heaven, the shepherds began saying to one another, “Let us go straight to Behlehem then, and see this thing that has happened which the Lord has made known to us.” So they came in a hurry and found their way to Mary and Joseph, and the baby as He lay in the manger.
Luke 2:15 – 17
I want it to go down in the record that I think premarital sex is wrong. That said, here goes. If maintaining strong Christian faith during college often seems like to fall by the wayside for many believers, avoiding sexual temptation is a Sysphean task for anybody with a boyfriend or girlfriend. One part of the issue may be that the vast majority of college students believe that premarital sex is fine and normal; it’s having unsafe premarital sex that’s really the sin. The culture surrounding sex in college is very permissive and understanding so that a Christian trying to maintain purity looks like a backwards stick in the mud.
Another part of the issue is that in Christian circles, suggesting that sexual temptations might plague you elicits gasps, and admitting you’ve succumbed to those temptations could easily cause people to rethink their relationship with you. It’s considered so very, very wrong: a sin that you can’t admit to without risking ostracization. But while it’s certainly best to avoid sinning in any way (if not actually possible), everybody falls. Yet despite what the Christian community implies, having sex outside of marriage is no worse a sin than gossiping or being greedy – it’s just that people can hide the gossiping or greed while sometimes the effects of premarital sex are unavoidably obvious. But in God’s eyes a sin is a sin, whether it be sex before marriage or lying to your roommate.
What is it that makes sex so gasp-inducing? Why is it illicit to talk about? What frightens parents off from speaking candidly with their kids? When sex, and talking about it, is taboo how can Christians hold each other accountable? Yet holding accountable is surely one of the strongest ways to help Christian college students remain pure. The knowledge of a phone call from a Christian friend asking “Have you gotten into any too-intimate situations lately?” could pour a little cool water on the hot flames of the moment. I would like to see a Christian culture that could come together to support students, to acknowledge the difficulty of fighting your own desires and the acceptance of the society around you. Working together and speaking candidly could do a world of good for Christian students. If only.
– KF –