“This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well-pleased.”
While reading Life of the Beloved, I felt that I needed to write this to you. You don’t all believe what I believe; some of you aren’t sure what to believe but some of you are confident that I have misplaced my faith and there is no God. This post is about God and about you, but please don’t give up on it if you think I’m all wrong. I believe the message will speak to you anyway, and we as a generation, as a culture, as a people, as a world, need to hear words like these more often.
It’s very easy to feel worthless, ugly, stupid – I’ve called myself those very things on this blog more than once. Those are feelings and words with which you and I are intimately acquainted; they follow us around like shadows, always waiting to wrap us in darkness when we fail to achieve our goals. We’re always seeing more perfect people than ourselves held up as ideals: the ideal body, the ideal mind, the ideal wealthiness, the ideal mother, the ideal writer, the ideal programmer; you can fill in the blank. But in all truth we can’t become those people, and although it may be hard, we shouldn’t want to be those people because they aren’t us.
You are valuable solely for who you are. You have inherent value, lovability, and wonderful humanity from the moment you’re born. The world would be an emptier place without each of you because you bring to it an amazing array of gifts that you bless others with each day. Your very existence is meaningful. You don’t have to achieve everything; you just have to be who you are. Friends, family, and God will continue to love you and value you throughout your life. You are God’s most precious creation, in His heart since before time began and now wrought out in flesh to live among people and bless people through your life.
Maybe you’re thinking that you don’t care about blessing people. But by blessing I don’t mean overtly going around muttering and making the sign of the cross over people. Do you care about helping others? Do you like to do people – strangers, even – a favor? Do you go out of your way to make life a little better for others? Those are ways that you bless people in your daily life. Your very day-to-day existence is a blessing and you are wonderfully valuable, simply in and of who you are. Please remember that even when you fail by the world’s standards, you continue to be a beloved creation – beloved by us, your human friends, and beloved by the God who formed your physical body from molecules and shaped your soul with His hands.
I would like to share two Bible passages with you. They are for you whether you believe in God or not. First is Psalm 139:13-15. Here it is:
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place.
The second passage is Jeremiah 1:5. This is God speaking:
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart…”
I hope these passages didn’t turn you away because you don’t believe in God, or think the Bible is too flawed to listen to. These are verses with a message that every one of usto hear when we hear the worthless-ugly-stupid mantra rising to a crescendo. If you leave with nothing else, I hope you take this away: that you are inherently valuable and wonderful, beloved of both people and God, and worthy of all the love there is to give.
I hope you can start to look at each day with a sense of how beloved you are, both of God and of other people. Try to remember and to believe that you are blessed, not cursed, and wholly, inherently worthy of being the beloved person that you are.