Apartment living

I mentioned previously that Benji joined me for our first week flying solo this last week. Benji’s never lived in an apartment before, and honestly I haven’t lived in one for well over a decade. 

As a result, we’re used to making noise levels appropriate to a single-family home. One day when Benji was here visiting, our downstairs neighbor came up and mentioned he could hear Benji’s running. We apologized and promised to try to keep it down.

Then during the week when Benji was gone, I walked across the house in my bike shoes — which do tend to be pretty noisy, with the stiff plastic soles and cleats — and within about 30 seconds the downstairs neighbor banged on the ceiling (I assume) to tell me to quiet down. Continue Reading >>

First week in the apartment with Benji

This week marked the first week Benji joined me in my new apartment. I’ll be honest: I felt deeply apprehensive. I’d done weeks with him before, but at my parents’ house, where things were familiar and, worst comes to worst, there’s other adults around. This was the first time I’d really be 100% flying solo with him.

Sunday night, I put him to bed and he came in twice – once to “get help falling asleep,” and once to adjust his nightlight. After I finished up with him the second time, this huge wave of feeling overwhelmed washed over me. How was I going to do this?! Continue Reading >>


When I started working again in 2017, I established a new exercise routine that I’ve carried on through the pandemic and everything. It worked well for us, the way things were.

But with this huge life change, I’m changing how I exercise, too: more flexible and less compelled. Hopefully healthier overall — if not quite as physically fast or trim, maybe more healthier thinking around exercise and fitness.

I got to practice this on Tuesday. I’d originally intended to go for a bike ride while Mom picked Benji up from school, but stuff happened and Mom couldn’t do it. So I needed to pick Benji up, leaving my apartment at 3:20. That’s okay! I can be flexible about this! Continue Reading >>